The way you look at your life is what will ultimately make you happy or unhappy.
When you become consumed by negative beliefs or assumptions, you will find that you are unhappy with your life. Eventually, your perception will become your reality, so changing your mindset can make a huge difference in your life.
A negative mindset tends to cloud your judgment, making it hard to tell if the negative thoughts you are experiencing are outside yourself or inside your psyche.
Here are five signs that it’s time to change your mindset and improve your life.
You Constantly Focus on Everything That’s Wrong
If you are always fixating your attention on the disappointments and worries in your life, this is a sure indication that your mindset is tainted with negativity. To begin to change this mindset, take some time to think about those things in your life that you are thankful for, because it will help keep the negative thoughts from completely overwhelming your perspective.
You Won’t Face the Truth
Complaining about reality won’t change it. Relentlessly complaining, is ultimately your refusal to acknowledge and accept the truth. There are things in your life that you just can’t change, and refusing to see the world as it is, results in you no longer being able to tell fact from fiction. Take action and change those things that you can and accept those that you can’t.
You Become Angry When Your Expectations Aren’t Met
Your expectations are a large part of your mindset. They are what you believe to be necessary and possible. If you are always angry that the people in your life, or when even you yourself, are not meeting expectations, it means that your expectations were unrealistic, to begin with. Our expectations are what lay the groundwork for our experiences, and if we have unrealistic expectations, we will never be satisfied with our life.
You See Yourself as a Victim
Continually seeing yourself as a victim, hinders your ability to change things and build a better life for yourself. This victim mentality is generally a by-product of low self-esteem. The only way to change this mindset is by deciding to reject the victim role and start creating something better for yourself.
You Constantly Blame Others For Your Misfortunes
If you always think other people are responsible for your misfortunes, it is because you have not learnt to take responsibility for your actions and become accountable for whatever happens to you in your life. Nobody rules your life – only you! That might sound strange to you, but it is true. Only you can choose how you plan and execute your life’s actions.
That does not mean that the Government, Your Parents, Your Spouse and Your Bosses have no say in what happens to you. All it means is that you are the only person who has the choice, either to obey the laws of the land and be safe from imprisonment, for example, or to break the law and land yourself in hot soup. It means that you have the choice to conform or not conform, be helpful or selfish, be peaceful and cooperative or be violent and a pain etc.
Before you blame others for your misfortune, check within yourself to see if you could have done something differently. The more you blame others, the more negative your life will become.
Changing your mindset isn’t easy, but it is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself. Learn how to recognize a negative mindset and become empowered to make the changes necessary to become more positive about your life.
Dr Grace Anderson.